Topic: My Mom, recently diagnosed with this disease

My mom, who is also my best friend, was recently diagnosed - had no warning really. A visit to her oncologist on September 10, 2007 showed no indications anything was out of the ordinary. My mom is a colon cancer survivor ( 6 years now) and has regular visits with her oncologist, and annual colonoscopy checkups.

10 days after my mom's visit to her oncologist, I'm taking her through the ER of a hospital  because she is suddenly jaundice, almost overnight, and complaining of severe nausea and very slight pain in her side.  Days later , after many tests, an ERCP was performed and a stent was put in place through the mass that is there. 
The Doctor visited with my father, husband, and me moments after the procedure and explained that there is nothing that can be done. No surgery, no chemo, nothing. He told us she has a very short period of time left. 

The days that  followed are a blur to all of us.. One thing has been constant, my MOM has a very posititve attitude and continues to smile at all of us - even on her bad days..  She tells us that she will not cry and that she does not want to see us cry either. She is an incredible woman, - always has a "Thank you" and a "Please" for everything she needs, and refuses to let this change her spirit.  She is an inspiration.

I want to do everything I can to make her remaining time here comfortable and happy for her.   Any suggestions, prayers, are appreciated.

2 (edited by Lisa Ann Tue, 16 Oct 2007 18:16:43)

Re: My Mom, recently diagnosed with this disease

Hello Cynthia,

I am so sorry to hear that your Mother has been diagnosed with this disease especially after beating Colon Cancer and being a 6 year survivor. How truly devastating this must be for her and all of you.

You have found a great group of people on this forum who are caring and very kowledgable. I am sure you will find the information and support needed to help your Mom.

In the meantime, you and your Mom will be in my thoughts and prayers. My Dad was diagnosed in the begining of September, and it has been a tough road thus far.

Keep a Positive Attitude just like your Mom,

Lisa

Re: My Mom, recently diagnosed with this disease

Cythia,
Please get a second opinion. There are many doctors that are far too conservative in treating this disease. PLEASE get the lab and scan results and send them for a second and third and forth opinion. There are many people on this board who were told that nothing could be done by their first doctor and it wasnt until they got second and third opinions that a treatment plan was organised. I live in Sweden so I cannot reccommend anyone, but if you read the forum you can find the names of doctors who are more proactive.

I will keep you in my prayers.

Kris

Cancer is a word, not a sentence.

36 year old patient with buckets of hope

Re: My Mom, recently diagnosed with this disease

Cythia,
Kris is absolutely correct in what she says.  A second, or third and forth, opinion is crucial.  Use the search function at the top of this page for 'second opinion'.
Best wishes to your Mom and family,
Peter

Re: My Mom, recently diagnosed with this disease

I echo both Kris and Peter's sentiments.  Please seek additional opinions. 

You are all in my thoughts and prayers. 

- Sara

30-something caregiver