Topic: Aloha for now

It's been a month since I found this site - three weeks since dad passed away - so short a time!

You have all helped me so much to get through this -

Even though my mom passed away so long ago, I never thought (or wanted to think) about my dad leaving us - he was always there to take care of us and even as he aged, I just never thought that he would not be around anymore.  Leaves such a big void -

But it's time for me to move on - there are serious health problems of close family members that need to be attended to - 

I wish you all the best - take care

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Aloha, Rose.  When and if you have a chance pop in on us.  We will be here.
All my best wishes,
Marion

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Aloha Rose and wishing you the best of luck with your other Care taking. Stop by anytime!

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
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Thanks - both of you have been super!

Tomorrow will be a month since Dad passed - it's been such a loooong month

Have been trying to get back to some semblance of "normal" although I'm not quite sure what that is anymore - I guess you just have to keep yourself open to whatever each day brings!

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Rose, I just want to say, I call it my "new normal".

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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Rose - Blessings to you as you experience firsts without your dad. The first month, the first....my heart is with you. Susan

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Hi all!

Got through the 24th OK but I kind of fell apart the following week -

Uncanny though - the house has started falling apart - the drain stopped up last week and the plumber had a hard time clearing it - then this past weekend, water started leaking down the wall so the plumber came in today to start a major overhaul of the plumbing in the house - seems like the house knows my dad is no longer around!

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Hi Rose, I am happy to hear you are coming along. Apparently the house is sad as well. With water running down the wall surely seems like the house was "crying".  I think a lot of us get through the first couple of weeks as we have so much to do and think about and after all the hoopla dies down we are left with our Memories. I try to think of all the funny things and that helps but then the minute I think of something cute about Teddy I miss him again and a few tears well up. Time, though does seem to take care of things as they don't hit as strong as they did before. I am still having a rough time trying to talk to this big picture I have of Teddy but hoping one day I can start talking to him.. Right now I just talk in my mind to him. The other day I felt the need to spray some of his cologne on a cotton ball and take seom whifs and that seems to calm me down and make me smile. The Grandkids used to say, "Papa is coming, I can smell his perfume!".   Keep on doing what ever you are doing and it will ease up somewhat. Hugs to you across the water!

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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Hi Lainy -

Yup - my dad was small and quiet but he's left such big holes in our lives

And lo and behold - yesterday I went to the mailbox and there's a jury questionnaire for my dad!  It's so strange

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Hi Rose,  Funny, I thought the same as Lainy; the house is crying.  So many daily reminders how much we miss our loved ones. One day the tears will turn to smiles; not because you don't miss him but because you'll know he never really left. Take care. Nancy

Loving my husband from afar.