Topic: My mom

While everyone else in the house is sleeping I can not come close to relaxing enough to fall asleep. This evening at 8:36 my angel of a mom became an angel. Just one week before her 64 birthday. She had a tough night last night and we almost lost her trying to get her into bed this afternoon. However, she fought to the very end. She had a massage this evening. She asked my why I was going to spend the night and asked if I thought she was going to die tonight. She wanted my dad by her side the whole time. She was so sweet. I can't believe she is gone. I hate this cancer!

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Dear mn,

I am so sorry for your loss.  I am thinking and praying for you and your family in the days to come.  Memories are a wonderful thing and help keep our loved ones near forever.

Love to you and your family

Andrea x

Devoted Daughter to the most wonderful Dad a girl could ask for.  Sadly lost his battle on 19.02.11, peacefully in the arms of Mom and I.  As requested by Dad "we will keep on smiling".

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Thinking of you, mn.

With love Julia x

“When it is dark enough, you can see the stars." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Dear mn,

I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your mum, please accept my sincere condolences. Please know that we are all here for you and my thoughts are with you and your family right now.

Gavin

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Dear MN, I am very sorry about your Mom and she is now among the very best of Angels and at Peace. My prayers go out to your family.

Your Mom, through your memories
                             Will never leave you. 
You will feel her tender care from now on
         As a warm serenity in your heart.
Hoping you always feel the encouragement
         Of her love, and hold in memory
All the happy times you spent together.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
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Dear mn,
I am so sorry that you lost your Mom. I know this is a sad time for you. I wish I could take away your pain and I hope you will someday find peace and cherish the wonderful times you shared. God bless you and your dear Mom.

Love, Pam

My beautiful daughter, Lauren Patrice, will live on in my heart forever.

My comments, suggestions, and opinions are based on my experience as a caretaker for my daughter, Lauren and from reading anything I can get my hands on about Cholangiocarcinoma. Please consult a physician for professional guidance.

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Hi,
Your try your best by coming to this web site to help your your mom for info and insight;you did try your best for your mom; I am sorry that you lost your mom.
As always Lainy's poems give me the comfort and encouragement and I know my family will appreciate them.
God bless.

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Dear MN-
I am sorry to hear about the passing of your mum. I am glad your dad was there for the both of you.

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So sorry to hear of your mom's passing.   Take comfort in knowing you were all with her. Thoughts and prayers to you and family in the upcoming days.

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Dear mn -- how blessed you were to have such an "angel" for a mother.  And how blessed she was to have you.

I'm sorry for your loss.
Diane

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I am so sorry to hear of your mom's passing, it has been a little over a month since this horrible cancer took away our beloved daughter (age 26).
Our comfort is knowing that her pain has ended and she in now in a much better place and she will always be with us.  God Bless you and your family.

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I am so sorry about your mom. Lots of prayers for you and  your family. When my mom passed my sisters and I all kept a piece of her clothing so we could always smell and feel her presence. It has been 4 years and I still bring it out, when I need a hug or a smile. Cherish your memories.
Cathy

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NM, sorry for your loss. My mother too has become an angel to my family and myself on Oct. 25th. You and yours are in my prayers. The Lord knows how hard is to lose a piece of our hearts but stay strong!
-Crystal

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Hi Cathy. Another suggestion like what you did with the clothing? I keep Teddy's cologne on hand and when the Grandkids come over I take a cotton ball and give it a spray, put it in a  baggie and they feel like Papa is in the room. Oh! That just gave me an idea for Thanksgiving. Think I will give a Papa baggie to all! Thanks for stirring that up in me!

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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Thank you all for your support here on this site...it means so much to me.  I always took the good news from here and brought it too my mom.  That was part of what kept her so hopeful.  So many success stories.  But not enough.  Too many people have passed this week from this awful disease, and those are just what we know about.  There are not even 2,000 on these blogs.

I have to say, I never expected my mom to go the way she did.  Never expected her to have cancer, much less a rare one.  Even on the day she died, I never expected it.  I just took her shopping on Thursday. She was only able to shop for a half hour in a wheel chair, but she was determined to get new clothes (her hernia was getting too big).  She even insisted that I drive an extra 30 minutes out of the way to make sure she picked up a birthday present for my husband.

What I expected was for her to slowly get more tired and eventually just be in a sleep state and pass that way...isn't that what happens??? After our eventful afternoon on monday when we almost lost her trying to move her to her bed, the 10 feet in the wheel chair was just too much for her, she passed out and started shallow breathing.  Even the nurse who was there at the time said she was passing.  However, I was not going to let my mom pass in a wheelchair...it just looked way too uncomfortable.  When we got her on the bed, she slowly came back. 

Right before she passed she had me on one side of her and my dad on the otherside of her.  She didn't have any energy all day. but someone she got up enough energy to slightly lift and turn her head to tell us "Shhh", then she laid her head back down.  My dad and I were looking at each other because neither of us were saying anything.  My husband and daughter were in the other room, but they were sleeping.  Then she did it again.  She then asked my dad to lift her up and she said she couldn't breathe.  I woke my husband and daughter and we were all able to be with her.

I still can't believe it...I keep waiting to hear her tell us, "I'm not sleeping, I never sleep.  I'm only resting my eyes."  Thats what she would say to use (usually yell it from another room) if we went to check on her and reported back to each other.

The day after my moms death, my daughter and I were driving home from my parents.  We both saw something.  My 15 year old daughter asked in a scared voice, "Mom, did you see that?  What was it?"  I started to cry uncontrollably, which scared her since I was driving.  After I calmed down I told her, "That was a shooting star hun.  That was grandma telling us she is okay."  I'm not sure where you all live, but here in Los Angeles, you never see one.  I have perhaps seen 2 in my 40+ years here.

I hope that was a sign from her and I will continue to believe it was. I can't believe I don;t have a mom anymore.  Making these plans were so tough.  I always go to my mom for advice.  I don't know who I am going to check on everyday. 

Thank you all for listening.

16 (edited by Pamela Thu, 10 Nov 2011 06:32:13)

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Dear mn,
My heart breaks for you. I am sorry for your pain. I do believe that shooting star was your Mom. I know I can't say anything to make you feel better. Just know that I am here for you. My Grandma died a few years back mainly from old age. She had really white hair. Whenever we see little white butterflies, and we see them quite often, we know it is Grandma Millie coming around to say hi! That always makes us feel better. I hope your nights are filled with shooting stars.

Love, -Pam

My beautiful daughter, Lauren Patrice, will live on in my heart forever.

My comments, suggestions, and opinions are based on my experience as a caretaker for my daughter, Lauren and from reading anything I can get my hands on about Cholangiocarcinoma. Please consult a physician for professional guidance.

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Dear Cathy, you bet that shooting star was your Mom's idea! Just keep on being
alert and you will see many things start to happen. I have a log I have kept on all Teddy "sightings" and in 11 months am up to 42. I have it on my Computer so that when I want to read it I can. It's amazing and keeps reminding me that he in fact is always around me. Teddy loved music and most of the time that is how he comes to me. Wishing you the very best.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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Dear mn

I am so sorry for the loss of your mom, please accept my deepest sympathy.

May your mom now soar with the angels.

with love

Michelle

"My dad, Tony, passed away on 4 October 2010, after a 19 month battle with CC"   - I carry you in my heart, Dad, forever.