Topic: Mom's in Hospice Care

My mom entered into hospice care yesterday.  She had a rough weekend, vomiting and was and is quite dehydrated and weak.  She didn't want to back to ER, so we contacted hospice on Monday AM.  Hospice has given us the usual drug options, morphine, and adovan.  Her nausea is just so bad.  They cant seem to get it under control.  We're also using a gel rubbed into the skin, with minimal effect.  They have suggested an NG tube to possibly make her more comfortable, but she is refusing it due to the uncomfortableness of the procedure at home.  I'm there most of the day with help at night.  I feel so helpless.  Praying a lot for mercy and relief and mercy of the symptoms.  Is this usually the way CC patients come to the end?  Mom's vitals are good, heart rate up at 104.  I think mom is afraid of the physical dying process, and still thinks there is hope in improving.  She's really not taking any fluids or food in at all, especially today.  She is still talking, but so distraught, thinking hospice would provide a more comfortable solution to her end days.   I guess I am really just looking for support, prayer support for God's hand of mercy for mom.  If she is not going to improve, and that is God's will for her, would you pray with me that God would be merciful in taking her quickly so she would not suffer any more. Having lost my dad, 2 uncles, an aunt and 4 neighbors in the past year, most dealing with hospice, even having the same nurse 4X,  within the last year, this seems so unreal. 
I'm so thankful for this website, your posts have encouraged me as caregiver and have provided me with good solid information to use with the docs.

God Bless All of You out there
KarenP

Re: Mom's in Hospice Care

Dear Karen,
So sorry to hear that you have gone through so much - I don't know how you do it. I hope your mother gets some relief from her pain and nausea - did they suggest suppository anti-nausea drugs? If she's throwing up, suppositories may help. Just from my own experience it sounds like your mother may be nearing the end - can the hospice nurse give you a clearer picture? Not eating or drinking at all is definitely a danger sign.

Best wishes to you - my heart goes out to you and your mother and I wish you both peace-
Joyce

Re: Mom's in Hospice Care

Dear Karen, I know what you are experiencing, my husband is in a similar state to your mum but thankfully the nausea is under control, I am so sorry that you have had so much sadness. May God be kind and take our loved ones sooner rather than later. The agony of watching them suffer is more than the heart can bear sometimes, I have to be so strong as I am caring for my husband and my daughter who has several problems, my love goes out to you, Fran Australia