Topic: When to choose Hospice?
I'm presuming there is no right or wrong answer but I was hoping that people could share their stories on when they chose hospice care rather than going to doctors/hospitals anymore.
It's such a hard choice. From the get-go, my dad decided that he didn't want to know all the specifics and that he wanted us to make the medical decisions for him. He had the upmost faith in our care for him and literally put his life in our hands.
The doctors are telling us that he is in very bad shape but can't tell us how long. In fact, nobody is willing to give any estimate except one doctor said "no, weeks... not months" so that's all we really have to go on. Based on that, we are thinking hospice, but the hard part is that dad still looks pretty good considering all he is dealing with. He says his pain level is at 2-3 most of the time. He is still able to eat/drink. He enjoys the company of people. He is talking about wanting to do exercises and eat more when he gets out of the hospital so that he can get stronger.
He simply doesn't seem like someone who is going to pass soon although the labs and symptoms (ascites, black stool, jaundice) would indicate otherwise.
How do you make the decision that you no longer want to extend your own father's life and that you are seemingly expediting his death, albeit in a comfortable manner?