Thank you all so very much for your response, advice and support! I greatly appreciate it. I was in shock to see so many people reply. I am just in tears and so grateful to have someone to talk to that has experienced what we are going through.
She just recently went to see the Oncologist that was recommended by her Gastroenterologist. It all started with Gallstones. We took her out to the Hospital because she was having abdominal pain and after doing an ultrasound they said that she had Gallstones that needed to be removed. She had her Gallbladder removed and everything seem to be going ok. She was sent home and over the weekend, 3 days later I went to visit her and she was laid on the floor in a fetal position in severe pain and sweating profusely. I called 911 and ambulance was dispatched.
When she arrived at the ER they took her blood and her liver test came back abnormal (I believe elevated) she was also jaundice. This is where it all started. She was admitted to the hospital and the Gastroenterologist on call that night tried a few times to perform a ERCP with no success. She was too inflamed and the Bile Duct was too narrow for him to get down there. She was then scheduled in Angio to have a plastic tube inserted in her side to drain her bile into a bag (I apologize, but I do not know the proper medical term for what they call this) He wanted her to go home and wait a few days to see if the inflammation would go down. After a few more visits the inflammation went down (almost 4 months later) enough for them to perform another ERCP to put a stent in and then they took the plastic external drain tube that was inserted in her side and put in a internal one in her.
She had a brushing of her Bile Duct and a 10 French 5 cm long stent was placed in the Distal Common Bile Duct. I get confused cause in some of her records it says it looks more like cholamgistis and it doesn't appear to be neoplasm in the head of the Pancreas. They did say that she also had sludge in her Common Bile Duct. They also did a Balloon pull through the stricture area. The report after the brushing said Atypical cells present suspicious for carcinoma, but it could not be rendered from this sample?
She was then recommended to another Doctor in the same practice to have a EUS (I believe that is what it is called) Where they go down with a camera and do a biopsy. He took a sample of a lymph node and the head of the Pancreas and it came back negative for malignant cells.
It's so confusing and we can't get any clear answers from either of them. One paper she has in her medical records says, Reason for visit: Pancreatic Mass?? So everything says something different.
After all this they both said that she needed to see an Oncologist which she has seen twice. Once when he order the CT, PET Scan and blood work. He was very adamant about her having a Whipple Procedure to rule out cancer.
It's just all so much and I don't understand a lot of it and when you ask a question they really don't go into detail. Everything I know I have learned from researching (Googling and joining groups)
I know that he said that he would see us in 6 months to re-do all the test again (CT, PET Scan and blood work) It's like we are damned if we do the surgery and damned if we don't. I just don't know what advice to give her. If she has the procedure on a probable cause there is a chance she won't survive the surgery and if she waits, it may be too late. It's like we are damned if we do and damned if we don't 
We are in Virginia and the Oncologist is Dr Rose with Johnston Willis Hospital
Thank you all again for everyhing! XXXXXX