• rhike
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Topic: My only child Patrick died after 4 months of this disease at 45 years.

My one and child 45 year old single son died yesterday morning after only 4 months of having this disease. He was very brave and courageous and lasted seven days on hospice. He had taken six sessions of GEMZAR. He lost 60 lbs being sick. He was mostly in the hospital during his chemo treatments  due to infections and weakness. Big mistake on my part and his oncologist for not researching cllinical trials  for him in the begining before his chemo.I miss him so much but I have faith that GOD took him as he suffered enough. Lets all pray that this cancer will have a cure someday or a cancer fighting drug that could have saved my son's life. Thanks to all for your messages and to Marions for helping post this message.

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Re: My only child Patrick died after 4 months of this disease at 45 years.

My heart breaks for you and I can only offer you lots a prayers and a hug.
Cathy

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Re: My only child Patrick died after 4 months of this disease at 45 years.

I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your son. Lots of thoughts and prayers.

Susie

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Re: My only child Patrick died after 4 months of this disease at 45 years.

I am so sorry to hear that Patrick has lost his fight with this awful disease.  My husband passed away from CC only 2 months after his first symptoms, so I do know what it is like to lose someone so quickly.  One can never understand why it sometimes goes so quickly and others are successful fighting this disease.  It's not easy,  but try to take comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering or in pain.   He will always be with you in your heart and memories.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.  Take care.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

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Re: My only child Patrick died after 4 months of this disease at 45 years.

Dear Rachel,

I am so very sorry indeed to hear of the passing of your son Patrick. Please accept my sincere condolences. I wish that there was something that I could say to you right now that would help, but please know that my thoughts are with you right now.

Gavin

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Re: My only child Patrick died after 4 months of this disease at 45 years.

Dearest Rachel, I am so very sorry as to loose a child has to be the most devasating thing that can happen in one's life. But, as you say your son is now at Peace and you carry on as that is what he would want you to do.

Letter from Heaven  by Ruth Ann Mahaffey

To my dearest family some things I'd like to say
But first of all to let you know that I arrived okay,
I'm writing this from Heaven. Here I shall dwell with God above
Here, there's no more tears of sadness. Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy because I'm out of sight
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through
God picked me up and hugged me and He said "I welcome you,
It's good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone,
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
God gave me a list of things that he wished for me to do
And foremost on the list was to watch and care for you
And when you lie in bed at night, the days chores put to flight
God and I are closest to you . . in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears
But do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
One thing is for certain though my life on earth is o'er
I'm closer to you now than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb
Together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
When you're walking down the street and you've got me on your mind
I'm walking in your footsteps, only half a step behind
And when it's time for you to go . . from that body to be free
Remember you're not going . . you're just coming here to me.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
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Re: My only child Patrick died after 4 months of this disease at 45 years.

Rachel
I'm sorry to hear that Patrick passed away and know that you are in our thoughts at this difficult time.

Gerry

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Re: My only child Patrick died after 4 months of this disease at 45 years.

Rachel
I am so sad for you, the pain of this must be unbearable. Please know that I will keep you in my prayers.
Lisa

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Re: My only child Patrick died after 4 months of this disease at 45 years.

I am so heartbroken for you. I hope you find the support you need to carry on. There is a lovely reflection I'll Lend You A Child by Edgar Guest. I have added this on the end.
Be kind to yourslef- the burden of grief is a heavy one.
C M


I'll Lend You A Child
by Edgar Guest
"I'll lend you for a little time a child of mine,"  He said.
For you to love - while he lives
And mourn for when he's dead.

It may be six or seven years
Or twenty-two or three,
But will you, till I call him back,
Take care or him for Me?

He'll bring his smiles to gladden you,
And should this stay be brief
You'll have his lovely memories as solace for your grief.

I cannot promise he will stay,
Since all from earth return,
But there are lessons taught down there
I want this child to learn.

I've looked this world over
In search for teachers true,
And from the throngs that crowd
Life's lanes, I have selected you.

Now will you give him all your love,
Nor count the labor vain,
Nor hate Me when I come to call to
Take him back again?"

I fancied that I heard then say,
"Dear Lord, Thy will be done,
For all the joy Thy child shall bring,

The risk of grief we'll run.
We'll shelter him with tenderness,
We'll love him while we may,
And for the happiness we've known
Forever grateful stay.

But should the angels call for him
Much sooner than we've planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that come
And try to understand."

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Re: My only child Patrick died after 4 months of this disease at 45 years.

Dear Rachel,

I am so sorry to learn of Patrick's passing.  Please accept my sincere condolences.  As his mother, you did all that you could do in the time that he had left.  Just know that now he is at peace and won't suffer any more.  My prayers will be with you and your family.  PeggyP

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Re: My only child Patrick died after 4 months of this disease at 45 years.

Hi Everyone:

My friends are all donating money to this foundation in memory of my son.
How will I be notified of the amount and from who? Can I see it online?

I would like to know how to put this question of the discussion board.

Rachel

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Re: My only child Patrick died after 4 months of this disease at 45 years.

Dear Rachael, thank you for your kind gesture.  Our Stacie is vigilant with her thank you notes.  She must however; have the name and address of those donating to foundation and, most importantly, she would like to know the name of the person honored, your sweet son, Patrick. 
Please, know that you are in my thoughts and that I wish for your heart to heal...one day at a time.
Love and hugs,
Marion

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Re: My only child Patrick died after 4 months of this disease at 45 years.

I am so very sorry about your son.  I lost my father on March 16th, two weeks after he found out he had bile duct cancer. 
You are in my thoughts and prayers. 
Brenda

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Re: My only child Patrick died after 4 months of this disease at 45 years.

Rachael,

I can't imagine the pain of losing a child.  Tomorrow will be three years since I lost my Mom to this disease.

Please know I will hold you and your family tightly in my prayers.  Please come back here often.  This site has helped me so much in my journey through grief.

Hugs,
Pam

My Mom lost her one year battle with CC on April 3, 2009.

"A prognosis is simply an audit of how truly precious each day is.  Live each day to the maximum, celebrate what was, and what is - Don't spend your life looking forward to what will or might be." .... words of wisdom from my beloved son on hearing of his grandmother's CC prognosis.