Candy, one thing you can do is find counseling for those kids! Do they even know yet? Don't put it off too long, school and neighborhoods are a hotbed of gossip. My biggest fear was well meaning neighbor's hugging my son and saying "I am so sorry about your mom" before I had a chance to tell him!
A good start would be to call the American Cancer Society they have lot's of resources for support groups, etc. Here in cincinnati we have an organization called Cancer Family Cares, they provide counseling for families whose lives are touched by cancer. My son, who is 10, loves his counselor, she comes to his school once a week and they talk about dealing with his mom's illness, grieving, etc. One positive thing is that he had become MUCH more diligent with his school work, he told the counselor it helps take his mind off what is happening to his mom. I am so sorry about your parents, I am so lucky to have my loving family surround me.
I feel fine today, that's how I deal with it, day to day. Some days I feel like absolute doo doo, other days I forget (almost) that I have cancer.
How was your brother's diagnosis made?
I was diagnosed in August, I thought I had the flu, hepatitis at the worst. what's worse is that I had just had my gall bladder out the previous November, not a sign, my poor surgeon about fainted when he found out. Everyone deals with this in their own way, I find humor is the best way for me. I remember playing a trick on my oncologist, got a fake tattoo and told him I got drunk in Mexico. The tattoo said "It's all about me!"
I have a blog, http://thecdr.blogspot.com I've found it very cathartic, and I tell people that this is the ONLY place that they will find the truth about me and my illness, any other source is pure gossip and not allowed!