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Oh, wow. Thank you for those lovely comments.

Lainy, Susan loves quality food and fine dining. I reckon she'll have a good time in Teddy's restaurant.

XXX

"Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician."

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Dearest Julia,

My heart breaks for you and your family.  I am hoping that Susan will be kept comfortable and calm.    Wish I could be there with you, just know that lots of strength, support, love, thoughts and prayers are coming your way.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

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Dear friend,
                 I wish I could be there to help and support you in person,it has been so difficult in this last while...thinking of you all           Janet

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Thank you, Janet, Darla and my whole CC Family.

I've just had 2 calls from the Hospice within 45 minutes of each other. The first was to say "Susan has taken a turn for the worse" and the second to say "Susan has just passed away. She wasn't in any pain".

Those of you, my wonderful Family, who know me on Facebook, please do not mention it there yet. I have many people to tell first.

Thank you for everything you have done for me and for my family since the day I bounced off the walls of Susan's tentative diagnosis onto this amazing site. We've been through so much together, you and I. At the moment I am perfectly calm and am just grateful that she is no longer in pain and is finally free of the devastating distress of being unable to communicate, as her cognitive functions deteriorated. The pain will hit me later. For the moment I will simply let her soul soar free, unfettered by the grief of those she's left behind.

Goodnight, sweet sister.

I love you.

XXXXXXXX

"Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician."

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Bless you, dear sweet Julia.  May Susan rest in peace in heaven. I am so sorry for your loss. Words cannot express my sorrow for you.

Love, -Pam

My beautiful daughter, Lauren Patrice, will live on in my heart forever.

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Thank you, Pam. We're going to beat this cancer. It's messed with the wrong bunch of people and broken too many hearts.

My love to you, Lauren and everyone fighting this disease in whatever capacity.

Julia xx

"Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician."

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Dear, Dear Julia,

Something made me come back here tonight only to find your post.  I am truely sorry for your loss, but your words are so true.  Atleast she is no longer suffering and is now free.  There is some comfort to be had in that.

I know exactly how you are feeling right now, but as the reality of it all finally sinks in know that we are still all here for you. 

May Susan now rest in peace.   All my love to you, your mom and all of those who love and cared for Susan.

Wish I could give you a big hug and lots of support, but will be sending it to you in my thoughts.

With Loads of Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

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My thoughts and prayers are with you.  Sorry you lost your dear sweet sister.

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Dear Julia,

I am so sorry about your loss. Your updates in the last few days have been absolutely heartbreaking. Susan is definitely in a better place now, free of pain and distress. May she rest in peace.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Hugs,
Eli

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Mty Dearest Julia, the Journey is over and Susan is at Peace. Truly, in time, you will be able to remember all the good times you SIsters had and that will outweigh all the rest. My heart is with you.




Letter from Heaven  by Ruth Ann Mahaffey

To my dearest family some things I'd like to say
But first of all to let you know that I arrived okay,
I'm writing this from Heaven. Here I shall dwell with God above
Here, there's no more tears of sadness. Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy because I'm out of sight
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through
God picked me up and hugged me and He said "I welcome you,
It's good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone,
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
God gave me a list of things that he wished for me to do
And foremost on the list was to watch and care for you
And when you lie in bed at night, the days chores put to flight
God and I are closest to you . . in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears
But do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
One thing is for certain though my life on earth is o'er
I'm closer to you now than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb
Together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
When you're walking down the street and you've got me on your mind
I'm walking in your footsteps, only half a step behind
And when it's time for you to go . . from that body to be free
Remember you're not going . . you're just coming here to me.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
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Beautiful, Beautiful, Beautiful - thank you xxx

"Time may be a great healer, but it's a lousy beautician."

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Oh Julia, I am heartbroken for you. And yet I know too that a peaceful death is so vitally important and it sounds like Sue had just that. I hate this cancer so much I want to see it in its physical form and beat the crap out of it.

I just wanted to briefly comment Julia on what you said in an earlier post a few days ago about "Sue's demons". Rest assured Julia that the discomfort and restlessness that occurs shortly before a passing is very normal and it's not so much distress or demons, it's a transition from this world to the next. It's possible that Sue wasn't even consciously yearning to go home, she was merely transitioning from one state to another. A few days before Diarmuid passed away, he couldn't get comfortable and was up and down and sighing and moving around. The doctor said to me "it's not physical, it's not emotional and it's not even psychological". She believed it was the first step in his soul's journey to a better place. I only mention this so you won't think that Sue was too distressed.

Love and hugs for you Julia. May Sue rest in peace.

“The dead are now in a place where there is no more shadow, darkness, loneliness, isolation, or pain. They are home.”
― John O'Donohue, Anam Cara: A Book of Celtic Wisdom

"The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares." [Henri Nouwen]

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Dear Julia,

I am so very very sorry indeed to hear of Susan's passing. She fought such a brave and tough fight with you beside her and supporting her all the way. Now she is suffering no more and her pain has gone, may you rest in peace Susan. We are all here for you dear Julia and my thoughts are with you and Nannette right now.

Much Love and Hugs to you,

Gavin

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My dear Julia

I have been checking FB for updates and have only just come on to the CCF forum and seen from your post the news about Susan.

My heart truly aches for you and for everyone that loves Susan.  Everyone here has such wise, kind, and supportive words and I don't think I have any that would adequately match them ... I wish I had, just some special words that would make some sense of all this. 

I have in my mind your picture of Susan on her birthday - she looked so beautiful that day, such a little while ago.  Susan's 'journey' is now over, the pain, distress and struggle is now gone - but love is not. 

Through everything, you have shown Susan so much loving kindness.  And love never dies ... it forms an unbreakable bond, and you will always have that between you ...   

Thinking of you

Helen xx

www.ammf.org.uk

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Julia - I have messaged you via fb, but please accept my deepest sympathy on the loss of Susan. Heaven has gained a truly beautiful Angel xxx

The Next Room

Death is nothing at all, I have only slipped
away into the next room. I am I, and you are you.
What ever we were to each other, that
we still are. Call me by my old familiar name,
speak to me in the easy way which you
always used. Put no difference in your tone,
wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes
we enjoyed together. Pray, smile, think of me,
pray for me. Let my name be the household word
that it always was. Let it be spoken without effect,
without the trace of a shadow on it. Life means
all that it ever meant, It is the same as it ever was;
there is unbroken continuity, Why should I be
out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere
very near, just round the corner. All is well.
For I have gone to a city where the roses never fade.

All my love and hugs, to you and your family.

Andrea xxx

Devoted Daughter to the most wonderful Dad a girl could ask for.  Sadly lost his battle on 19.02.11, peacefully in the arms of Mom and I.  As requested by Dad "we will keep on smiling".