Topic: my deerest hubby lost his battle

It is a week now since my hubby passed away, it was so fast, although we did expect it to happen.

I am going to miss him so much.Feeling so alone.

Andre, my hubby/friend, I love you always.

Re: my deerest hubby lost his battle

Dearest Kandre, it is very hard and will take a lot of time but things will get easier down the road. Andre is in a peaceful place now and in time you will remember only the good things and will make a new normal for yourself and be happy like he would want you to be.

From a book of blessings called "Benedictus" by John O'Donohue - Irish Poet & Philosopher

When you lose someone you love,
Your life becomes strange,
The ground beneath you becomes fragile,
Your thoughts make your eyes unsure;
And some dead echo drags your voice down
Where words have no confidence
Your heart has grown heavy with loss.
And though this loss has wounded others too,
No one knows what has been taken from you
When the silence of absence deepens.
There are days when you wake up happy;
Again inside the fullness of life,
Until the moment breaks
And you are thrown back
Onto the black tide of loss.
Days when you have your heart back,
You are able to function well
Until in the middle of work or encounter,
Suddenly with no warning,
You are ambushed by grief.
More than you, it knows its way
And will find the right time
To pull and pull the rope of grief
Until that coiled hill of tears
Has reduced to its last drop.
Gradually, you will learn acquaintance
With the invisible form of your departed;
And when the work of grief is done,
The wound of loss will heal
And you will have learned
And be able to enter the hearth
In your soul where your loved one
Has awaited your return
All the time.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

Re: my deerest hubby lost his battle

Kandre,

I am so sorry to hear that Andre has passed.  You have my deepest sympathy.  Try to remember him before all of this.  Keep him forever in your heart and memories.  Andre is now at peace and no longer suffering.   Try to take some comfort in that.  Know that I am thinking of you and that I share your pain.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

All of my comments and suggestions are just my opinions and are not a substitute for professional medical advice.   You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care providers.

Re: my deerest hubby lost his battle

I'm so sorry to hear of your husbands passing.

Your family will be in my prayers.

~Tiffany~ 31 years young wink Fighting CC since 10-27-2011
Wife to Brian; Mommy to Carter (8) and Madison (4)
http://tiffanyschwantes.wordpress.com/
Liver transplant 7-9-2013

Re: my deerest hubby lost his battle

Hi,
I am so sorry to hear the passing of your husband,
May the Love of our Lord Jesus Christ,the Grace of God and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you and your family.
God bless.

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I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  I lost my husband of 45 year 2 months ago.  Yes it is very lonely, but after 2 months I am sort of finding some sort of peace.  I know he is in a better place, but I finally came up with a word to describe my feelings and that was "empty".  I still can't sleep on his side of the bed, and his glasses are next to his computer.  I finally started using his towell rack 2 days ago.  Habits are really hard to break.  It is still hard to go to sleep at night, but I pray to him everyday.  I know he hears me.  You will begin the journey, like me, to find a life after hubby.  I don't know what that is right now.  I am told that God doesn't give you what you wish, but what you need.  We don't really know what we need, but I think with his help we will discover that in our journey into widowhood.  I really feel for you and all those that have lost their mate.  It is a journey I wouldn't wish upon anyone. 

Please take care and take deep breaths.  Break down when you can't stand it anymore.  I feel much calmer when I do that.  Tears are the water of love.

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Ladies,

Jim has been gone almost 4 years and we too were together pretty much 24/7 for 45 years.  I was told at one point something to the effect that the stronger the love the strong the grief and I believe that is so true.  I still have good and bad days, but we just have to keep going on, moving forward one day at a time. 

Janet, I like the thought that tears are the water of love.  There is nothing wrong with breaking down and crying.  It does seem to cleanse and comfort.  Deep breathing is also good.

Take care everyone.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

All of my comments and suggestions are just my opinions and are not a substitute for professional medical advice.   You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care providers.

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I am so sorry for your loss, I will be praying for you and your family. May God give you peace and comfort in time.
Lisa

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Re: my deerest hubby lost his battle

Hi there, thanks for all off you replied.   Yes it is difficult, at he moment , i am in my own world, just go with the flow, I dont think the reality sank in.  Plse keep me in your prayers,

Thinking of all of you going through this.

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kandre,

Lot's of comforting thoughts and prayers coming your way from Wisconsin.  smile

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

All of my comments and suggestions are just my opinions and are not a substitute for professional medical advice.   You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care providers.

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Kandre-

Many prayers and postitive thoughts for you at this time. I am sorry for your loss.

Hugs,
Jenny