I don't have much to say- I am a young widow, only 33 years. I am 1 year into this journey. I log into a widow discussion site often- today there is a post about living alone which I liked. I think what we should try to do is- be alone and create some happiness from that to start. For me- I need to regain some happiness from within. I cannot go through loosing everything again dependant on anyone else. If you can do that first maybe the rest will follow for you.
All my best as always
HOW TO MAKE THE MOST OF BEING HOME ALONE
DO...enjoy your 'me-time' rituals - a scented bath on Sunday evening, a good wine at the end of the working week.
DON'T...become so stuck in your ways that it becomes too much hassle to go out on Saturday night when you're happy in your PJs watching Breakfast at Tiffany's.
DO...glory in having sole control of the TV remote.
DON'T...find yourself repeatedly dozing on the sofa at 1am in front of an episode of CSI.
DO...use your home to entertain - at least once a month invite a bunch of friends round for drinks.
DON'T...keep your home as a sacred space, so intolerant of disruption that you secretly resent visitors.
DO...remember that you are part of a community. Those who live alone most successfully tend to reach out to those who live close by.
DON'T...rely too heavily on work colleagues for your social life. Aim to garner friends from many different backgrounds.
DO...cook yourself delicious meals and eat from your best china or dine al fresco when the weather is warm.
DON'T...rely on snacks or ready-meals because 'what's the point when it's only me?'.
DO?snuggle up in bed all day Saturday reading if that's what you feel like doing.
DON'T?do the same thing on Sunday. Variety in every aspect of our lives is the secret to feeling that life is stimulating.
DO?stay up until dawn reading, writing, painting, listening to music - whatever makes you feel alive. When you live alone?you can!
DON'T?cram activities into your diary because you fear being lonely. Relax into solitude and cultivate your creativity. It is no coincidence that many great female artists have chosen to live alone.
DO?spend time with people you love and like - you have no one's opinion to worry about but your own.
DON'T?waste a minute worrying about people who see the world only in terms of couples and make you feel slightly odd for choosing to live alone.
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