Topic: My best friend, my husband
On July 3 2007 I lost my best friend, my husband. It still feels like he's away somewhere and is coming home soon. I still expect him to call me on my cell phone to ask where I am and when I'm coming home. I miss him so very much. We had so much yet to do.
On Nov.13 we were diagnosed with this horrendous disease and given 1 year to live. We were inoperable at this stage. We went home and as my daughter Michelle informed this post about how we started him on all organic produce, no dairy, no meat and all different supplements as well as Taheebo Tea. We were doing so well that the afternoon before his placement of a port a cath we went for our appt. with our oncologist. He was so amazed at well my husband looked and felt and how good his blood works were that he said it would be a sin to start him on chemo. The oncologist wanted a surgical second opinion.
So off we went to see a LIVER SPECIALIST and HEAD OF SURGERY at TORONTO GENERAL HOSPITAL good old DR BRICE TAYLOR and his team of worshippers.
We were tested and informed that we were now a good candidate for surgery. They started by placing a external drain to see if everything was working on the other side of his bile duct and his liver. Infection time- 10 days in hospital. Then the Dr. telling us that he would be operating on May 1 2007. The LIVER SPECIALIST told us that 3/4 of his liver that was ATROPHIED ( meaning it was a dead liver) would be removed and the good bile duct and portal vein would be reconnected to his bowel and he would get another 5 years to live. My husband was so excited.
On May 1 2007 my husband walked into the hospital on his own power. He was still talking, walking, eating and still running his own business.
When the surgeon came out within an hour of taking my husband into surgery I knew something was wrong.
Dr. Taylor the LIVER SPECIALIST informed me that my husband had CIRROSIS of the liver (meaning it was a living liver with scar tissue) and another tumour under the first one. He also informed me that if they would have cut into a cirroded liver he would have bled to death, so they just closed him up.
After 12 days in hospital, where my husband DID NOT EAT or move around very much and was delusional, they told me he could go home and live a life of quality.
We left the hospital in a wheelchair, with my husbands stomach completely bloated with fluid and his ankles twice their size.
QUALITY OF LIFE- my husband slowly deteriated in front of our eyes. We tried feeding him baby food and shakes to try to keep up his strength. He never again asked my daughter how business was or barely spoke in a manner that we could fully understand.
We had to take him to the hospital once again because he had difficulty breathing. Here they drained his belly and kept him monitored for a week and when I questioned his inability to speak they did a brain ct to see if he had a tumour. It came back clear. So they sent me home to let him die.
We continued to try everything in our power to bring him back eg: chinese herbalist, naturapathic Dr. with 3 hr intravenous remedies. It was all too much for him. We were given 3 separate death dates as his body started to give up, but he kept fighting until the early morning of July 3.
My best friend was a 6'4" tall strong healthy 230 lb. man of incredible stature. He was a funny, warm, loving man.
In a split second on Nov. 13 our lives changed.
ON JULY 3 THE LOVE OF MY LIFE PASSED AWAY AT A MERE 100 lbs. He basically starved to death and no medical personal would help us.
He passed away at home with my daughter, granddaughter and myself with him.
To end this, if you have things you want to do with your loved one DO IT TODAY, DON'T WAIT, BECAUSE AS I SAID BEFORE IT TAKES A SPLIT SECOND FOR YOUR LIFE TO CHANGE. HUG THEM, KISS THEM, HOLD THEM AND ALWAYS LET THEM KNOW HOW SPECIAL THEY ARE TO YOU.