Topic: 9 months ago
Hi everyone and thank you for letting me join this site. It was 9 months ago that my dad passed from Cholangiocarcinoma at 79 years old. When dad was diagnosed 5 months prior to his passing I quickly found this site and have been reading ever since. I wanted to know why my dad got this terrible cancer, what could be done and what would happen. I know from the get-go that dads treatment was only going to be palliative. He was so ill when he had his first symptoms and sign that something was wrong, he did try the Chemo route, he had 5 rounds of chemo, but was still not going to get the tumors to shrink, after treatment number 5 Dad's oncologist said to stop the treatments it was doing more harm than good. Dad was home the whole time he was sick, He never wanted to go to a nursing home or a facility and wanted to be in his home, My sister and I promised him that we would take care of him in his home. (Our mother had passed 20 years earlier) so it was up to us to take care of him. My older brother lives out of state and could not be with dad as much as my sister and I could. I guess with the holidays coming, I am having a pitty party for myself and just needed a place to vent. Dad and I were oh so close and in the last few days. I told him it was ok to let go, It was ok for him to go Lindy with mom again. We had Hospice start the week before dad passed, and it was a good experience, the little book they give on the process of dying was pretty much right on. I am glad I had the last 5 months to really talk with dad, when he left i was at peace I had no unresolved issues , no unanswered questions, and no remose for the time I had with him. Dad and i were very close and he allowed me to be even closer in his last weeks. I miss him so much especially around the holidays, Thanksgiving was one of Dad's favorite. I am making the traditional fest next week and I am sure he will be proud. I will leave a glass of wine on the table in honor of him. Thanks for letting me vent.
I pray for all those who are suffering from this terrible disease, and for those who have passed or have lost someone to cancer. I guess somewhere inside all of us there is something to be tankful for at this time of the year.