posting about george here (Page 1 of 2)

Lynn,
I'm sorry you and George are having such a rough time . I don't know the "right" answer but because I am caring for my Dad with Alzheimer's, I can tell you that there is no harm in going along with someone's thoughts even if they are not real.  Sometimes I gently correct Dad (telling the truth so he doesnt get hopes up for something thats not happening in reality) and sometimes I just sort of agree/ go along with it or change the subject (depends on situation). The director told me another strategy is to ask more questions or details about George's statement/idea and he may end up answering his own question or changing to a new subject. Avoid getting frustrated trying to convince him of anything he can't grasp. Hope this helps. Keeping you both in my thoughts. Willow

thanks everybody.im taking your advise about how to answer george,miss kay(nurse)was here,she ordered george something for his congestion,she can hear it in his lungs.george talks about odd things,im doing the best i can.his sister came by after work,she broke down,then went to their moms and to her just how bad george is,then she called me a few minutes ago,she was crying,and said shes comming in the morning.george is her first born,on top of the pain and heartache im in,the pain is much deeper when you lose a child,i know,i lost a son 28 years ago,so i the burning heart ripping pain that she is going through george is her son.sorry rambling dont know if i made sense...love and hugs Lynn.

Dear Lynn,

I am so very sorry for all you and George are going through. I am glad his Mom is coming to see him. Family is everything. Take care and much love being sent to all of you.

-Pam

every day this gets harder and harder,early this morning george fell,he took me down with him,hes ok,it took awhile but i got him back up and in bed,george is a very stubborn man he wants to do things on his own his way.with what little strenght he has,he puts up on heck of a fight,and it was because of this he fell.I was walking him back to bed after going to the bathroom,and just as i turned him to guide him back into bed,he pushed me away,and we both went down.thats not all,a few minutes ago,he got up to go to the bathroom,i tried to help him up,at first he said leave me alone im alright,he tried but couldnt,so again i helped,when he got to his feet i was still holding on to his arm,he pushed me away,so i followed close behind,he made it,ok,when he started walking back to the recliner i was right behind him ready,well,he started falling sideways i caught him,but if the back door wasnt there,we would of went down again,i hurt my little toe.Miss kay is getting him a bedside potty and comming by this afternoon.i will talk to her about what else i can do.he is so restless,he dont know where he wants to be,in bed or his recliner.i will let you all know when miss kay leaves and what she sugests.love and hugs Lynn

Dear Lynn,

I am real sorry to hear what you and George are going through right now. I wish that I could say things that would help right now. Please know that we are all here for you and my thoughts are with you and George right now.

Hugs,

Gavin

i cant do this...im breaking im alone

i didnt call her,i gave george a sponge bath a few minutes ago,and it took so much out of him just to lift his legs so i could dress him,he was breathing hard like he ran a marathon,i lost it,i got him settled and lsft the room to have a good cry.his mother and i talked today and started making arrangements.its just been a very trying day...

Lynn, please keep in mind that you might want to ask the Hospice Nurse if George can go to a Hospice Facility. That is what I ended up doing with Teddy, and nothing to be ashamed of. I was afraid I couldn't handle him and that he would get better care at the facility.

good evening everybody,we had quite an eventful early morning,and day.First,at 5am or so george sat up and hollered for his mom,he had his legs of the bed and he wanted to get up,i couldnt help i tried tho,he is so weak he couldnt,so he fell back on the bed  with his legs hanging off,i tried to get them back on the bed,his legs were just to heavy,i called hospice and told sandy whats going on and they send an aide right away,in the mean time,i wasnt giving up,i got georges legs back on the bed,his aide,David,oh what a god send he is awesome,now george wouldnt coperate with me at all,But with david,george was awesome,David is so good with him,even his sister thinks hes great,well,anyway,david stayed 2 hrs,bathed george,shaved him gave him a massage,he really relaxed him.mis kay got here just after david left,and the hospital bed was delivered this afternoon,its wonderful...georges sisters and brother spent the whole day with him,his brother even helped me change georges shirt.i am sitting right beside george while typing this,yawning and snoring,and now taking the covers off,gotta go for now,Love and hugs Lynn

Lynn, I am so happy you got the Hospital Bed. It will make a big diffrence. I am also happy that George's family is there and helping. Hope you get some good rest tonight! Lynn, you are doing just awesome! I am thinking about you all the time.

Lynn....so glad to see that people have come to your aid.  Hopefully George and you can get some rest tonight.  Lynn, I don't know whether I understand you correctly however; if George is trying to remove his covers then it may mean that he feels hot due to the fact that his internal body temperature can't regulate normally. Don't be afraid to leave him uncovered at least for a while. You may want to run this passed the Hospice nurse for clarification.
Thinking of you and sending tons of hugs,
Marion