• From: Lawrence, KS
  • Registered: Tue, 08 Jan 2013
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Topic: Coping with the loss of my mother 6 weeks ago.

I am new to this web site but so glad that it exists.  My mother was diagnosed on Sept. 30th, 2012, (my birthday) and she passed away on November 29th, 2012.  She was overseasand I was greateful that I saw her the last 4 days of her life. I'm devastated as I loved her more than anyone in the world. She was the only one I had as she divorced my dad when I was 4 years old.  She was my hero!! This cancer is one of the worst that I've ever seen in my life.

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Re: Coping with the loss of my mother 6 weeks ago.

Hi Orlysud,

I am so sorry for the circumstance under which you have had to find this forum.  I am new here too and like you am very grateful to have stumbled upon it.  I just know there will be a wealth of support and wisdom along to help you here very soon.

Clare
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Dear Orlysud, I am so very sorry to read about your Mother. You are so right this Cancer is a Monster. I am so glad that you got to spend those 4 days with your Mother and at least she is at Peace now. I believe that Mother's never really leave their children and in time you will feel her all around you!

Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn's rain,
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.                   By Mary Elizabeth Frye

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.
  • From: Oxnard, Ca
  • Registered: Mon, 03 Dec 2012
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Re: Coping with the loss of my mother 6 weeks ago.

I'm so sorry.  I lost my Momma to this horrible cancer.  She was a single parent and she was my rock, hero and my best friend.  I pray that you get comfort knowing she is at peace.

Annie
My momma may she rest in peace after her short but courageous battle with CC.  My brother my hero, may he fight CC with all of his strength.
  • From: Lawrence, KS
  • Registered: Tue, 08 Jan 2013
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Re: Coping with the loss of my mother 6 weeks ago.

Thank you everyone who replied to my post.  I know that the only people who can relate to this particular cancer are ones that have had experience with it.  I am so grateful to this web site as it will help me and others to overcome this tragic loss, hopefully. 

Lainy said "I believe that Mother's never really leave their children and in time you will feel her all around you!"  I pray that it's true because that's what I want the most.

  • From: Washington DC
  • Registered: Wed, 17 Oct 2012
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Re: Coping with the loss of my mother 6 weeks ago.

I also thank you Lainy for sharing that thought. In my case I am that mother. It is absolutely heartbreaking not to die but to leave my children so young. I have  always told my children that there is an invisible golden thread that ties us together that can never be broken. Even after I go, I will be right there for all three of my children (daughter is 14, the youngest) Orlysud, I know your mother is there right beside you all the time and I pray you will find peace in her quiet  presence. It is a different kind of mothering and you will have to be strong and fill in the blanks, but never doubt that she is there, loving you.

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Holly, you will NEVER leave your children. When a love is that strong it cannot be broken. I tell you true that I have 57 "visits" from Teddy in the 2 years he has been gone. I keep them in a log in the computer and when I feel lonely I just read them and I know he is all around me. I even went to a Medium the week of Thanksgiving and he said things to me through her that she could have NEVER known. He ended the session with the phrase, "My Love". It didn't dawn on me until that night.....something that was between us that no one else knew. He would come up to me, give me a huge hug and kiss then stand back about 2 feet and hold out his arms like he was showing me off and simply say, "my love". Oh boy, those Sicilians! So I do have proof that loved ones are only in the next room.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.
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Re: Coping with the loss of my mother 6 weeks ago.

Thank you Lainy. You really comfort me and I deeply appreciate it. I have my three children and also the love of my life, with whom I have shared only 8 years. No matter what happens, I will be there with him and with my children. Where else would I be??!

For all of us, it is the same. Those golden threads cannot be broken, ever.