Topic: I miss you, Mom!

My beautiful 59 year old mom lost her battle with this monster of a disease on December 19th.  I finally truly understand what it means to miss someone.  This hole in my heart runs deep and it's so painful.  She was such a huge presence in my life, it's hard for me to believe she's no longer here.  Very strange and depressing when I really think about it.  My heart goes out to every person affected by this terrible disease.

2 (edited by Darla Thu, 24 Jan 2013 15:04:54)

Re: I miss you, Mom!

Dear Daniela,

I am so sorry to hear of your mom's passing.  No words can make it better, but try to take comfort in knowing that she is no longer suffering and is now in a better place.  Keep her with you forever in your heart and memories.

You and your family have my deepest sympathy.

Take care.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

All of my comments and suggestions are just my opinions and are not a substitute for professional medical advice.   You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care providers.

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I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. I am sending my heartfelt condolences to you. May your Mom live on in your heart.

Love,
-Pam

My beautiful daughter, Lauren Patrice, will live on in my heart forever.

My comments, suggestions, and opinions are based on my experience as a caretaker for my daughter, Lauren and from reading anything I can get my hands on about Cholangiocarcinoma. Please consult a physician for professional guidance.

4 (edited by Cherbourg Fri, 25 Jan 2013 06:24:31)

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Dear Danni,

I know how hard it is to lose a Mom.  I lost my Mom to this monster of a disease April 3, 2009.

The pain is awful to bear and will come at you at unexpected moments.  I can still be reduced to tears just passing someone wearing my Mom's perfume.

I can promise you at some point the good memories will start to overtake the bad and it WILL get easier but I can't tell you when.  Everyone grieves in their own way and in their own timeframe.  Grieving is the hardest job you will ever tackle but you must find your way through it for that is what your Mom would want for you. 

Take your time and grieve.  Remember if you had not loved so much and so deeply this would not be as hard.  Come here often....believe me someone is ALWAYS up and awake on here.  We truly understand and have been and still are there.

Be kind and gentle to yourself.  Surround yourself with those that really care...unfortunately you may find yourself surprised at who these people turn out to be.  My "best friend" once told me to just "get over" it.  That all of my tears would never bring my Mom back.  It was my Southern Upbringing and fear of prison that kept me from acting out what I truly wanted to do......

We are all here for you and we understand.  Start looking for your "pennies from heaven"....( you can search my posts for the story)

Hugs and prayers... You are a wonderful legacy that your Mom leaves behind....

Hugs!

Pam

My Mom lost her one year battle with CC on April 3, 2009.

"A prognosis is simply an audit of how truly precious each day is.  Live each day to the maximum, celebrate what was, and what is - Don't spend your life looking forward to what will or might be." .... words of wisdom from my beloved son on hearing of his grandmother's CC prognosis.

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Dear Danni, I am so very sorry to read about your Mom. I hope you are a "believer" as then you will know as I do that she is really all around you. My heartfelt sympathies go out to you and your family.

Letter from Heaven  by Ruth Ann Mahaffey

To my dearest family some things I'd like to say
But first of all to let you know that I arrived okay,
I'm writing this from Heaven. Here I shall dwell with God above
Here, there's no more tears of sadness. Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy because I'm out of sight
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through
God picked me up and hugged me and He said "I welcome you,
It's good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone,
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
God gave me a list of things that he wished for me to do
And foremost on the list was to watch and care for you
And when you lie in bed at night, the days chores put to flight
God and I are closest to you . . in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears
But do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
One thing is for certain though my life on earth is o'er
I'm closer to you now than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb
Together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
When you're walking down the street and you've got me on your mind
I'm walking in your footsteps, only half a step behind
And when it's time for you to go . . from that body to be free
Remember you're not going . . you're just coming here to me.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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Dear Danni,

I lost my dear mother 20 days before yours, (November 29, 2012) and have been devastated.  She was all I had in my life and we were so close to eachother.  She was my mother, friend, my rock & hero.  I miss hearing her voice on the phone every morning & miss her love.  I feel lost and alone and hurting so badly.  It's normal to feel so much pain, and it will take a long time to ease the pain.  They say time heals and I firmly believe it, even though at first I wanted to die and didn't believe anything anyone said.

I'm 59 years old, and my mother was 83.  Bile Duct cancer is an agrressive monster.  My mother thought she was going to get better when she improved a little, but then she went downhill.  It was horrific.  I saw her 5 days before she passed and she didn't even look like herself, and was yellow from head to toe...it broke my heart into a million pieces.

I pray that you find peace, hope and comfort.  Share about it as it's very important, cry when you want to release your pain and keep coming back to this discussion board and share your thoughts. 

I'm with you.  Feel free to contact me.

A big hug,

Desiree

Re: I miss you, Mom!

Hello everyone! 

Thank you for reaching out to me.  It's so nice to hear your kind words.  I really appreciate each and every one of you. 

Thank you,
Daniela