Topic: My Dad's journey

My father was diagnosed with intrahepatic cholangiocarcinoma just a year ago at the age of 87.  He sailed through 2 Y90 treatments, and has managed a number of issues.  He is now in Hospice care, with ascites being the most problematic issue.  Staff have advised us that he is too weak to bear having the fluid drained, as the decrease in fluid could cause a drop in his blood pressure, and the inevitable return of the fluid could cause him more discomfort than what he has now.  Thankfully, he is not experiencing any pain.  But he is increasingly confused and sleepy.  So I'm thinking that the build up of fluid is affecting his brain.  So this is my question.  Is this the end?  Will he simply drift off into a coma and slip away painlessly?  I'm thinking that would be preferable to some of the other eventualities.  Maybe I am just being naive?  How long can he go on like this?  I'm not trying to hasten his death, but I don't want to prolong it either.  How can you hope/pray for your own father's death?

Re: My Dad's journey

Hi,
It is the ammonia level build up that cause the patient being confused and sleepy.
and if I may say so, this will be the most peaceful way to go both for the sick and the people who surrounding the patient.
Usually will not be long but each case is different.
I will pray for a peaceful outcome for you.
God bless.

Please know that my personal opinion is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice. If  provided, information are for educational purposes.Consult doctor is a MUST for changing of treatment plans.

Re: My Dad's journey

Hi wonderful daughter! I know this is hard to believe but your father is doing good in reaching his journey, especially for his age and condition. He will pick his own departure and you only have to keep telling him you love him as the hearing is the last to go and that it is all OK and that you will all be fine. I do have a list of things to look for if you are interested in preparation. If you e mail me I would be happy to email the list to you as it follows peretty closely what happens. Hospice also has a good booklet that will give some ideas. I pray for your Dad to have a peaceful journey and for your family to still make this a loving Memory.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

Re: My Dad's journey

Thank you, Lainy.  I appreciate this so much.  I will email you off list.

Re: My Dad's journey

Speaking softly (he can hear you) touching gently and making sure that he is in a comfortable postition (gently) all will help your Dad feel at ease. May love surround you in this most precious of times.
You may also want to read up on the following link:
http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/fact … -life-care

Hugs and love,
Marion

THIS INFORMATION IS NOT INTENDED NOR IMPLIED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL MEDICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD ALWAYS SEEK THE ADVICE OF YOUR PHYSICIAN OR OTHER QUALIFIED HEALTH CARE PROVIDER