Topic: Great Book for those dealing with Grief......

Hi all,

I lost my Mom to this monster of a disease on April 3, 2009 so I'm coming up on the fourth anniversary of her death.

As I've said before grieving is the hardest job we ever tackle.  My journey with grief has had its' ups and downs, its' ebbs and flows...

This weekend I picked up a book I'd bought a couple of years ago and hadn't gotten around to reading.  Turns out this was a huge mistake.....

I'm so impressed with this author's insights and wisdom.  She interviewed hundreds of people that had experienced the death of a loved one including one of the Moms that lost a son in the Pan Am terrorist attack over Lockerbie, Scotland in 1988.

The book is called "TRANSCENDING LOSS"...UNDERSTANDING THE LIFELONG IMPACT OF GRIEF AND HOW TO MAKE IT MEANINGFUL BY ASHLEY DAVIS PREND, A.C.S.W.

The back cover says....."There are many wonderful books available that address acute grief and how to cope with it.  But these books often focus on crisis management and imply there is an "end" to mourning.  They essentially fail to address the issue of grief's ongoing impact, and how it changes through the years....

"This is a book about death and grief, yes, but more important it is a book about love and hope.  I have learned from my experience and interviews with courageous people about pain, struggle, resiliency, and meaning.  Their stories show that over time, you can learn to transcend even in spite of the pain.  We all get broken by life sooner or later because loss is the price we pay for living and loving.  But experience shows that we can become stronger at the broken places and find the opportunity in crisis.  I hope this book will guide you on your journey through times of healing and transcendence"......from the introduction by Ashley Davis Prend, A.C.S.W.

She is a licensed psychotherapist and supervisor at the Center for Marital and Family Therapy in Manhatten.  She also has a private practice and is affilated with St. Vincent's Hospital where she leads AIDS-related brereavement and support groups.  A frequent lecturer on the subject of bereavement support groups at a local church and is an active member of the Association for Death Education and Counseling.  A native Texan, she now lives in Manhattan with her husband and two children. 

Thought I would pass it on....Hopefully it may help those on this part of the journey....

Hugs to all.....
Pam

My Mom lost her one year battle with CC on April 3, 2009.

"A prognosis is simply an audit of how truly precious each day is.  Live each day to the maximum, celebrate what was, and what is - Don't spend your life looking forward to what will or might be." .... words of wisdom from my beloved son on hearing of his grandmother's CC prognosis.

Re: Great Book for those dealing with Grief......

Thank you, Pam, for his recommendation. Is there a place on this CC forum for listing books and resources like this?

Willow

Re: Great Book for those dealing with Grief......

Willow.....the resources are hidden within each individual category.  Pam's wonderful posting is visible to all in the "Grief Management" section. 
Our webmaster (Rick) is in the process of re-vamping the CCF site however; the biggest issue presents the allocation of threads within the space provided.  And, of course, a website has limitations in re: to how much it can retain.  But, dear Willow, don't hold back from offering your thoughts and ideas in fact, we believe that the best ideas are provided by our members.  The "Suggestion" thread has been provided for that purpose.
http://www.cholangiocarcinoma.org/punbb … m.php?id=5
Thanks for bringing this to our attention.
Hugs,
Marion

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