Topic: My Daddy :(

Hello..... Everyone

It is my first time writting on this site although i have been in here several of times reading everyones post and looking for information or answers that could help me and my family through this very rough journey. I was actually inspired  by my sister Angie Mesa to get the courage and write a post. Although it has been a very hard journey i just want to thank my oldest sister Angie for being there for all of our family she has been great support, specialy for my mom and my self who live with dad and have to see him go through this pain day by day... It is very heart breaking to see him suffer this much since he has always been a very storng man. I sometimes wish God would just take him with him and get him out of this miscery and then i feel guilty and scared for thinking this because he one day will not be with us.... It is a very hard time for all of our family but onece again i am  thankfull for my big sis Angie Mesa for givin my mom and I the strenght and guidence through these hard times.

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sis....so glad to have you join in.  Indeed it is a difficult journey, but know that you and Angie are supported and loved.  We care and we are in this together.
Hugs to you,
Marion

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Thanks marions..... it is trully dificult... just this morning as i was leaving to work my dad was up already and very anxious just all over the place i could se by my moms expession that she was worried latelly hes been very restless... hi sits down and with in five minutes or less he's ready to get up... it seems that he is not comfortable anywere any more.... but i am trying to charish every moment with him.... i like to joke and play aroud with him as much as i can and try to get a smile atleast from him.... and again thanks for the support.

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Dear angie's Sis, I understand how you feel about your Sister. I talked with her the other night about an hour and absoutely fell in love with her over the phone. Our goal is to meet up for lunch one day when I can drive again and perhaps you can join us as well.  My biggest concern at this point is that Dad is not getting enough Meds to keep him comfortable. I already talked about it with angie and ifyou girls need help please call me. Your Dad's legacy is going to be the wonderful children he has helped raised! You will get through this and yes, the day will come when you will feel relief that he has found Peace. I am here if you need me. We all care so much and thanks for introducing yourself!

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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Thanks Lainy... Angie felt the same way about you..... and i would defenitly love to joing you guys....I think its hard for my mom to see my dad so druged up and always asleep Angie and i talked about the convesatin she had with you and i have been trying to help my mom understand that it is ok... and that maybe it is better for him to be asleep most of the time that maybe that is the only way he can rest and feel more at ease.... but evene though we do the medicne for the anxiety he continues to get up at night like every two or three hours and this very hard for my mom.... i try to help at times but he wants my mom to do it all for him.... all this is to scary....

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Yes, it is so scary to have a love one go through this. Not everyone goes through this the same way but Dad is so much like my husband was. I know we think if they are sleeping too much it is not good and we want them awake for us, but is that the kindest way? After what I went through with my Teddy I would do anything to prevent anyone else going that way. And yet, do not be afraid as the very end was not scary and the most beautiful thing I have ever witnessed. When the agitation and pain are not controlled the patient is using everything they have just to fight that pain and agitation thus pulling them away faster. And remember even when Dad is sleeping he can hear you and he knows you are there.  The best you can do is to be very strong for Mom and Angie.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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Sis....there is an underlying; biological and psychological reason causing your Dad anxiety.  Is it possible for your Mom to speak with the physician and voice her concerns?  Those of us, who take care of our loved ones, are faced with enormous challenges therefore; a heart to heart talk with the physician is of utmost importance.  It benefits us and allows us to do be the best we can be. 
Hugs,
Marion

THIS INFORMATION IS NOT INTENDED NOR IMPLIED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL MEDICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD ALWAYS SEEK THE ADVICE OF YOUR PHYSICIAN OR OTHER QUALIFIED HEALTH CARE PROVIDER