Topic: Not sure if people here believe in God... but please pray for my mum.

Recently my mother was diagnosed with this awful cancer. We are both Christians, or whole family are Christians.
I know that this is probably more of a forum on a medical standpoint, and I respect that my mother has a life threatening disease but I'm not giving in yet based on everything I have believed growing up.

I'm still young, only 18, and I need my mother. I adore her, I love her and she probably means more to me than anything else on this planet. I haven't gone on a school camp, even in my last year of school - I couldn't even sleep over my dad's house because I missed my mum too much and cannot bare to be away from her. I grew up with terrible anxiety disorders that I learned to manage simply by having my mother with me, getting through suicidal thoughts and making everything better - I was finally getting happy just with my mother there every step of the way.

I can't go on without her, and I love her to pieces. I am simply too attached, never having gone a day without her in my life - I need her.

Not sure if this belongs in the grief management, but it is an introduction nonetheless, and she is still alive.

As the title suggests, I don't know if anyone here does believe in a God, but if you do... just pray that she recovers. I need her, she is the standing point in every part of my life.
I need her to be okay.

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Dear Exoaria, I am so sorry to her about your Mother. Can you tell us what is being done for her? Of course you can mention God on here, we have had quite a few Miracles around our site. I feel that we are all going to the same place we are just taking different paths to get there. I would like to suggest to you that you seek some help with your feelings either from a Professional or a Clergy. I am glad you found us but sorry you had to. Please keep us updated on Mom as we truly care.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
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My mum has bile duct cancer, it's "quite extensive" as the gastro specialists said. However the Oncologist seemed to be saying that it could be managed, and that she could live her life managing her illness like someone with diabetes. I don't understand how those two opinions can both effectively be true. The cancer professionals with PhD's are saying that she's going to live a long and normal life managing her Cholangiocarcinoma however the gastro doctors are saying she has less than a year to live.

I hope one of these miracles occur in my mother's life. She is such a beautiful woman and I need her with me. I don't want help yet, I don't want to try and place logic on this situation - that's what a professional will do. I want to have faith that she will be healed.

Thank you so very much for your kind words.

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Exoaria,

I'm so sorry to hear about your mother.  Please stay strong and hang on to your faith.  My faith has gotten me through this for almost two years now.

Do you and your mum have someone else helping you to understand this all and going to doctor appointments with you?  It may be a good idea to get another opinion.  What treatment is you mum on and how is she handling it?

I will definitely keep you both in my prayers.

Peace,
Mary

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Dear Exoaria,

I too am praying for your mom and yes, sometimes miracles do happen.  Stay with us.  We are all here for you.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

All of my comments and suggestions are just my opinions and are not a substitute for professional medical advice.   You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care providers.

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Dear Exoaria,  I am a Christian too. And I will keep you and your mother in my prayers. My sister was told 8 months but its been 13 months now  and her blood work is very good and getting maintenance chemo now every 3 weeks and her Onc. Is amazed. We are now treating her ICC as a chronic illness. Don't ever give up hope. I do believe it is very helpful to have someone to talk to and be on this walk with you and your Mom. A trusted person from church to pray with is very comforting. Come back here often and get support.

Love and prayers,
Suz

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Thank you to Darla and Mary as well.

We have an entire family of 10+ around my mum, she is in hospital at the moment with jaundice as we all gather around her and support her. She does not spend even a minute alone, there is ALWAYS someone in the room with her and we understand what both the gastro specialists and the Oncologists are saying.
It's just confusing when the Oncologists are saying something different to the guys in gastro.

She has not started the chemotherapy yet, however she is in hospital with a stent waiting for the jaundice to leave. Then she can come home and start her treatment.

Again, thank you for the kind words. Please keep her in your prayers.

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Suz wrote:

Dear Exoaria,  I am a Christian too. And I will keep you and your mother in my prayers. My sister was told 8 months but its been 13 months now  and her blood work is very good and getting maintenance chemo now every 3 weeks and her Onc. Is amazed. We are now treating her ICC as a chronic illness. Don't ever give up hope. I do believe it is very helpful to have someone to talk to and be on this walk with you and your Mom. A trusted person from church to pray with is very comforting. Come back here often and get support.

Love and prayers,
Suz

I am so glad to hear that your sister is making it past the time she was told to live. I will keep your sister in mine as well, it's a real blessing that she is moving through and may there be many more days to come where she gets on better. We will continuously go to church to get her prayed for, and we will all pray together.
Thank you for your support and kindness.

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Dear Exoaria,
I am a Christian too. I was given six months and I am here two and a half year later. My faith and trust in God has gotten me though this journey. I will be praying for you, your Mother and your family.
If you need to talk to someone, please call me.
330-903-6868
Hugs,
Lisa

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Hi Exoaria,

I'm sorry your Mum is sick. I will pray for you, her and your whole family. Please try and stay strong for your Mum.

Love and hugs,
-Pam

My beautiful daughter, Lauren Patrice, will live on in my heart forever.

My comments, suggestions, and opinions are based on my experience as a caretaker for my daughter, Lauren and from reading anything I can get my hands on about Cholangiocarcinoma. Please consult a physician for professional guidance.

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Hi,
Giving in or giving up may not be God's will for his creations like us.
Praying for the Holy Spirit to guide you to find the best hospital and the best liver specialist and surgeon,medical oncologist and radiologist to treat your mom  may  be fruitful. Second opinions from John Hopkins; Mayo Clinic in Minnesota; MD Anderson in Texas,or USC in California is highly recommended. Since you did not disclose where you reside in which States, therefore .i have to list all of the above hospitals which specialized in cholangiocarcinoma .
Of course, as a Christian, I have already prayed for you mom, and I am sorry for you to have grown up so fast and so soon to have such responsibility on your shoulder. But I am sure with God's Grace, He will guide you to the best solution HE can provide to you.

God bless.

Please know that my personal opinion is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice. If  provided, information are for educational purposes.Consult doctor is a MUST for changing of treatment plans.

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Exoaria.....My heart is with you and your family.  Please know that it is not uncommen for specialists to disagree.  As soon as the stent reduces your Mom's bilirubin, her jaundice will disappear. 
Hugs and love,
Marion

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Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.  Information is critical.  Questions, questions, questions until you feel comfortable.

Gregg

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Exoaria, I will pray for your Mum as well.  I too, am a Christian and I have a friend who lives in Adelaide but is a police officer somewhere in the country (I think she told me 8 hours from the city).  She grew  up in Adelaide but came to the United States to attend college at Milligan College in Tennessee.  My oldest daughter was attending that college too and they became good friends.  Since she couldn't go home for school breaks or holidays we "adopted" her and she became a wonderful part of our family.  After she graduated she returned to Adelaide and went to the police academy.

As sad as it would be to lose your mum, remember, that "...we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28 God is watching over you and your family, crying with you as you are hurting and will continue to be with you no matter the outcome.  Rely on your faith to uplift you in uncertain and scarey times.  Your mum needs YOU to be strong for her as you go through this together.  Find someone to talk to if you don't have anyone besides your mum, so you can share your feelings and fears.  That helps keep everything in perspective and to know you are not alone.

God bless you!  Stay positive!

Jayne