Topic: need help --advice please!!!
I am reaching out for advice to those of you who have done this before.
My husband has stage 4 CC....in liver and lungs.
He is considered terminal. No one can predict WHEN he will "terminate"
and we are proceeding w/chemo and hoping for the BEST amount and MOST
amount of time possible.
At the moment, he is doing great. We have heard/read/seen stories where
people with his diagnosis have gone anywhere from 8 weeks (which we've now passed) to 3-4 yrs. He is young and otherwise healthy.
Unfort. with this *#(&$# cancer, there is no predicting ...well, ANYTHING, it
There are some VERY real and very hard realities that we will have to
face upon his death (well I will be the one facing them).
Finances, and raising 4 kids alone, seem to weigh the most heavily on my mind.
These are very real, and very serious issues, that are understandably hard.
I am TRYING to find a way to have "joy in each day" WITHOUT
CONSTANTLY worrying about the future...but I am finding it very hard.
We've talked a lot, put all things in order that we can--but there are some
things that will just plain be hard no matter WHAT we do now.
So my (long winded) question for those who have walked this path is this:
HOW do we put aside all the very real, very hard "fears and worries"
about what is coming and be joyful NOW? today? tomorrow?
How do *I* learn how to not worry every second of the day?
We haven't even hit the "bad stuff" yet (when he's REALLY sick and
not working and all that jazz...) Those things give us BOTH anxiety too.
Terminal illness is really hard.
The fact of NOT knowing when/or how long/ also makes it hard to make
any plans past next week ....
I would love some real life advice on what has worked for people ...
(I hope I made sense)...