Topic: Grief by Gwen Flowers

Grief

I had my own notion of grief.
I thought it was the sad time
That followed the death of someone you love.
And you had to push through it
To get to the other side.
But I'm learning there is no other side.
There is no pushing through.
But rather,
There is absorption.
Adjustment.
Acceptance.
And grief is not something you complete,
But rather, you endure.
Grief is not a task to finish
And move on,
But an element of yourself-
An alteration of your being.
A new way of seeing.
A new definition of self.

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CM, that is just beautiful and so, so true, well said. Thank you for that and hope you are doing ok in your new normal. It is excellent to see you again!

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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Thanks Lainey :-)

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Chrissie.....A beautiful poem.  Thank you for sharing with us and thank you for checking in.  You have been missed.
Hugs,
Marion

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I found this somewhere and thought I should share it since I believe it and hopefully it can help others who have shared the loss of a mother or loved one:

As I sit in Heaven
And watch you every day
I try to let you know with signs
I never went away
I hear you when you're laughing
And watch you as you sleep
I even place my arms around you
To calm you as you weep
I see you wish the days away
Begging to have me home
So I try to send you signs
So you know you are not alone
Don't feel guilty that you have
Life that was denied to me
Heaven is truly beautiful
Just you want and see
So live your life, laugh again
Enjoy yourself, be free
Then I know with every breath you take
You'll be taking one for me


I cried when you
passed away.  I still cry today.
Although I loved you dearly , and still do
I couldn't make you stay.  A golden heart
Stopped beating, hard working hands at rest. 
Jesus broke my heart to prove to me that he
only takes the best.  You're forever in my heart.
I know one day, we'll meet again,
Until we do just know how much I miss you and
you are always with me.

I believe in the "Afterlife" and that one day I will see and be with my mother eternally.  She'll be waiting for me as long as it takes and that's the only hope I have left.

Desiree

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Desiree, that is just a beautiful poem, thank you for that. May I give you one suggestion? I am a strong believer as quite a few of our Members are, on the beyond. I have always felt Teddy around me since he passed and have had ton of validations. I started a log 2 weeks after and I date each entry, much like a diary. I have had 86 what I call Teddy blinks in this 2 1/2 years and if I am feeling lonely or having a bad "moment" I read the log and then I know he is all around me! Don't know if that would appeal to you but it sure brings comfort to me. Thanks for the meaningful poem.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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Dear CM,

What touching words.  Grief is hard to express and explain.  Somehow, what you have put above does it perfectly.

Desiree, I just read your other post about the butterfly - keep that log like Lainy suggests.

Clare

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