Welcome to the site. Sorry that you had to find us all and I'm sorry to hear what your husband is going through right now. But I am glad that you've joined us here as you're in te best place for support and help and you'll get loads of each from everyone here. Thanks for sharing everything that is going on right now. My dad too had the jaundice as his first sign that things were not right and he was diagnosed a few weeks later after that with his CC.
I know that you heads will be spinning right now with everything that has been happening and everything will have been coming at you so fast as well. We went through that too and everyone does. But I know that you'll start to feel a bit better once a treatment plan is in place and you can start fighting back. A positive attitude is great and will help much through all of this. Learning as much as you can too will definitely help as well as the better informed you are the better equipped you will be when it comes to making decisions about things.
I so hope that you get some good news on Monday at the meeting about surgery. My fingers are crossed for you and please let us know how everything goes with that. As to who to tell and all that, first off I would say wait and see what comes up on Monday and then take it from there. My dad was very open about things and didn't mind telling people etc and we found that having things out in the open and talking about everything was easier and so worked for us.
I hope that you will keep on coming back here and keep us updated on everything. We know what you are going through right now and we care. We are here for you.
My best wishes to you and your husband,
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