Topic: Holding my Mom's hand at the Hospice House

Well, my Mom fought for 6 years and 3 months, never once accepting her prognosis with CC. She is a warrior and an inspiration. I have been with her since she was moved into the Hospice House 11 days ago. She knew that I was there in the beginning and would respond back to me with an "I love you too" but would be in and out of confusion. She is only 66 and was otherwise healthy and strong, which is why her body is holding on so strong now. Its torturous however to see her like this. She is unrecognizable since just 11 days ago. I just want her to be at peace. It is so hard to see my Dad cry over his "sweetheart" each morning when he walks in. He retired two months ago to care for her. It's so sad that they will not be able to enjoy retirement together. She is so young and the best "Nana" anyone could ask for. One of my hardest days was holding my children close as I told them that the doctors could not do anything else to make Nana better and that she would pass away soon. So damn unfair that I have to explain cancer to a child! We need to find a cure to this deadly cancer!! Especially if it is genetic, I don't want my children to someday have to hold my hand at a hospice house and watch me fight death....

Re: Holding my Mom's hand at the Hospice House

Donellalu; My heart is aching for you, your mom and your entire family.  I know I am new to this group, but I just wanted to say that I am thinking of you and holding your family in my thoughts and prayers.  Your Mom sounds like an amazing woman who has filled your heart with many good memories.  How wonderful that you can be there with her, such a special gift for both of you and such a great support and comfort for your dad.  Peace and blessings to you and your family.


Re: Holding my Mom's hand at the Hospice House

Donellalu, I am so very sorry to hear about your Mom. You can do no more except to just be there and keep telling her that you love her and I believe in giving permission for a loved one to go on their Journey. By giving permission it releases you both.  Remember the hearing is the last thing to go so keep telling her you love her and that you will be OK. My heart goes out to you and your family.

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Re: Holding my Mom's hand at the Hospice House

I'm so sorry for what you are going through with your mom.  My mom, too, is fighting this terrible cancer.  She is 62.  Like your mom, she has always been healthy and strong.  She still is, but I know that one day that will no longer be the case.  I have a small daughter who is crazy about her grandma and I dread the day when I have to explain why we can't go to grandma's house.  Life can truly be so unfair sometimes...and heartbreaking.  Please know that you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.


Re: Holding my Mom's hand at the Hospice House

Dear Donellalu,

I am so sorry to read that your mum is in hospice care due to this disease.  Your mum will know you and your Dad are with her.  My sister knew we were all with her right to the end - I am in no doubt of that.  Please use the forum as you need to and let us support you through this.



In the stars now . . . .

Re: Holding my Mom's hand at the Hospice House

I'm so sorry.  I have young grandchildren myself and this is my biggest fear of all in this.  The one thing I have learned from losing a brother (not from CC) is grief is a process, not an event.  Your mom will always be with you and you will keep her alive in your children's memory.

Peace to you and your family,

Impatient patient.

Re: Holding my Mom's hand at the Hospice House

So sorry for what your family is going through. I really understand what you're going through. My precious sister is in Hospice now and only 68 years old. She had a great life until this cancer took it away from her. You do have to be so strong to get through this. I just can't imagine life without my sister.
Praying for peace for your Mom and your family