Topic: Grief vs Holidays
I saw this on a news station and felt it was pretty right on for a lot of us.
Grief-stricken can have a hard time balancing the merry with the mourning.
Words such as jolly, cheery and bright infiltrate the season between Thanksgiving and New Year's, but those who have lost a dear friend or family member during this time are left with the antitheses of good tidings, comfort and joy -- an annual reminder that their holiday celebration is missing a very important person. Even the brightest holiday lights can't dull the grief of losing a loved one. If you're grieving, your natural, healthy and necessary emotional process runs contrary to what's around you. People don't understand just because you're going through grief doesn't mean that you must be, or will be, sad every single day throughout the holidays, the most vital piece of advice for those in a similar situation is to give yourself permission to grieve. Grief is this amazing process of our ability to handle tragedy it doesn't make grief so foreign, mysterious and negative.
If you don't want to come out of your room for a day or two, that's acceptable, but, after two weeks, if you're not able to muster up the strength to do basic tasks, it might be useful to talk to a professional.
Do not be afraid of the wave of powerful emotions; do not continually push away feelings of sadness. One of the best things you can do is, if you need a cry, you cry, you will not be crying for days on end. It's important to redefine the holiday period as a memorial.
When we have the family time, it's less of we have to get together and more of we want to get together.
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.