Topic: Drs bedside manner
My dad has been seen by many doctors and is currently being treated by an oncologist from Baylor College of Medicine and one at Sacred Heart in Florida. His oncologist in Florida scheduled an appointment with a GI to assess whether there are problems with his stents.
When mom and dad went to the GI visit for stent evaluation he GI dr looked at my dad's last CT scan (April 08) and looked at my dad's stomach and decided to tell them that my dad was dying and did not have much to live. He said that the tumor was growing fast, that it was in his lungs, that he probably has till Nov 08 to live and that he should get close to his family and get his personal finances in order. This GI was very blunt and had no other information. He hadn't seen all the previous scans to which compare the April scan and he did not perform any tests.
The treating onocologist in Florida was upset over this GI visit as the only reason he was suppoed to see the GI was to get evaluated whether there are problems with the stent.
Neither of the dad's oncologists have confirmed that the cancer had masticized to lungs nor have they said that the cancer was growing fast. Dad is currently undergoing treatment wit Gemzar and has 1 or 2 treatments left of the 6 or 7 he's supposed to have.
The GI really upset my parents. And they are very sad. The have an appointment to see their oncologist tomorrow morning to discuss further and how to proceed with the stent eval.
I'm upset that with one data point the GI decided to tell my dad that he was basically a dead man.
Have any of you experienced this before?