Topic: The percentages and hope
Yesterday, I had a discussion with a nurse about my incisions healing slowly and then the conversation turned to this awful cancer and the even more awful percentages of it returning after having curative intent surgery, even with good margin and no lymph node involvement or spread beyond the liver. I thought OUR stats are bad, until she shared with me that when she was 7 years old (50 years ago )she was diagnosed with kidney cancer. The doctors at the university hospital told her parents she had a 5% chance of surviving. She had surgery to remove the one kidney and apparently had chemo, though she said she doesn't remember having chemo and no one ever mentioned it, until a later doctor mentioned it to her. The point is.....she had a 95% chance of dying....and not only didn't she die, but she thrived and grew up to be an awesome nurse. Yes, her bout with cancer spurred her to become a nurse. We don't know why some people survive and others don't yet.....but the fact is that someone has to be in that small, but good , percentage that survive with out recurrence. We, myself included, often tend to dwell on the negative percentages, and as pessimistic as they are, it's so hard to have hope. But, in order to make the most of each day we have left, to enjoy our lives , whether one day, one week, one year or years, we have to maintain hope for the future. I've been trying to shift my thinking, and some days I'm just not successful, but I'm trying.