Topic: Dad Passed

After a successful year of chemo my dad has passed.

The last month of this was horrible. He was vomiting bile and not able to eat. He was in his home until the last week of this disease.  He was moved to hospice and spent 2 days there before he left us.  I was with him the 5 days before he passed and I am glad I was there.  I feel he wanted to make sure I had all of his papers and was gone before he let go.

I am having a hard time grieving and taking care of everything.  I really miss him.

Re: Dad Passed

Crissie I am so very sorry to read about your Dad. I truly believe we all, when we get to the end of our Journey pick, our own time. Please accept my sincerest condolences.

Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn's rain,
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.                   By Mary Elizabeth Frye
For everything beautiful that you see
will bring a memory of me.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
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I'm glad you got to spend time with him. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know you'll be on autopilot for a few days making arrangements. The best advice someone gave me after my little brother passed unexpectedly is that grief is a process, not an event. We are here for you.

Lisa

Impatient patient.

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So sorry for your loss. I too am glad that you got to spend so much time with him in the end. It is what you both needed.

KrisV

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Dear Crissie,

I am so sorry to hear that your father has passed away.  I too am glad you were able to spend those last days with him.   Take some comfort in knowing you were there for him and that he is now no longer suffering or in pain.   There is nothing I can say to soften the pain, sadness and confusion you are feeling.   I know that it is hard to imagine right now, but eventually time will ease your pain.    Know that he will always be with you in your heart and fond memories.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this sad and trying time.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

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Dear Crissie,

I am so very sorry to hear of the passing of your dad. Please accept my sincere condolences. I too lost my dad to this cancer and know the pain that you feel right now. Please know that we are all here for you and my thoughts are with you and your family right now.

Hugs,

Gavin

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Crissie,

I too would like to add my sympathy at the loss of your father. You were a wonderful advocate and daughter. It is hard to juggle the responsibilities and grief but it does get easier. In time I hope the sad memories of this last month will be replaced by fond memories with your father.
Sincerely,
Willow

Willow

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Crissie,

Your Father's last moments were like my mothers.  It was horrible watching her go through so much misery, but I take comfort that she is now at peace and with all of us each day.

Please accept my sincerest condolences.  Remember all the good times you spent together.  A Father is very special person.  I too hope that my boys are there for me one day if need be.

Cheers
Ilias

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Crissie,  I, too, want to tell you how sorry I am for what you are going through and the loss of your dad. Autopilot seems to be a good word to use to describe those first days as you make your way through funeral preparations.  Know that we all care here and will help you any way we can.

Hugs from Iowa Girl
Julie t.

Just for today, I can get through anything.  "Never let fear decide your fate."  (from the band, Awoination.)

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Crissie, I am so sorry to hear the latest of the passing of your dad.  You have been such an amazing tremendous support for him.  May he finally be at peace and rest.  May you heal and grieve and look back and cherish the times you had with him.  I know how tough it is.  Take good care.  Hugs and blessings.
Porter

Hope, love, strength...2013 and for the years to come, Porter.