When my husband - who is 66 came back from hospital, we ignored the issue of diet - a lot of cancer diets involve raw vegetables and little or no fat or protein - and simply concentrated on building up his strength and I hoped his weight. He has gained a little weight but not much but he is much stronger. He doesn't have any dairy products or beef, very little lamb and once or twice a week chicken or turkey. We try to eat a lot of fish especially oily fish. He tries to eat protein and vegs, carbs and veg but not mix carb and protein; we don't always stick to that regime. he drinks coffee and tea but only in the morning.
When he first came back I phoned Cancer Options UK and spoke to someone there. It was she who gave me the recipe for cachexia - which I will include in the body of the email next time - saying that although it is not in line with many theories about what cancer sufferers should have, it was more important to build him up and get him back to normal. I agreed with her and I think in this respect at least, it was the right decision.
We have porridge and toast every morning. I add something called Linusit to the porridge it is flax seed which is very good for him - as is omega 3 and 6. When he was first back I would make pancakes and french toast for breakfast, because they were fried (calories) and the eggs had protein and he likes pancakes. Only soy milk to drink. Lunch we would have starch and veg - lots of veg / salads and in the evening protein - usually fish and often fried with soup for starter and fruit for dessert. (I have put on weight even if he hasn't!!!)
Mid morning I would make the high protein high energy drink he would drink one in the morning and one later in the day. Every day I make a juice with carrots celery beetroot and red/yellow peppers. (sometimes with parsley or watercress) which is full of anti oxidants. Over the weeks his appetite had increased and last week we were able to eat out at a chinese restaurant.
Before the diagnosis when he lost his appetitie completely, one of the few things he could eat were carrots and I have read that carrots are very good for the liver.
Interestingly my husband was at university in Israel and the incidence of this disease there is higher than in other countries - and my gastroenterologists said it is also high in Eygpt.
We are now trying to decide whether or not to have the chemo on offer. I think it will pretty much depend on what the next scan shows.
best wishes to you and your dad