Well, I am sounding like a broken record because I have posted about this elsewhere on the board, but I think your husband's situation sounds like my Mom's and I think you should consider treatment besides chemo/radiation that does not have such extreme side effects.
This cancer comes on very quickly and my Mom was near collapse right before her surgery and she also has a heart condition and has a pacemaker/ defibrillator. After her resection, she was even weaker. She came home but had to go back in the hospital a week later because she had a biloma (an abcess that was filling with bile) and another tube had to be inserted (eventually she ended up with 3 tubes) and then she went to a rehab facility because she needed daily physical therapy. When we were finally able to get her home and to an oncologist, she took one look at my Mom and said there was nothing she could do for her in her condition.
She eventually did get chemo/radiation but it was 3 months after her resection and I think it made things worse and I really wish I had known about photodynamic therapy (PDT) because side effects seem minimal in comparison and I think my Mom could have tolerated it better. There is an article in the Medical Updates section that says it is common treatment in Europe and may double survival rates, here is the outside link:
http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/ … 041508.php
The article talks about people who are not candidates for resection but I don't see why someone who has had a resection couldn't receive this treatment, unless there is something I am missing. Cancer Treatment Center of America and Mayo Clinic supposedly offer PDT, not sure about others.
Joyce, I see a lot on here about nutrition and I think it is the most important thing, my Mom's friend was battling another type of cancer and her doctor told her she needed 95 grams of protein per day and I firmly believe that if you don't do something that radical, the muscle will never come back and without that strength, the odds are long.
Unfortunately, my Mom won't eat anything healthy and when I asked her doctors about dietary restrictions they said there were none, just to stay away from alcohol, which was kind of obvious. I practically begged them to give her some dietary "requirements" instead and they looked at me like I was crazy. By the way, I think what they serve people in the hospital in this country is just nuts. I heard the woman in the bed next to my Mom order 2 Cokes, some schools have stopped selling soda but you can get it in the hospital? That makes no sense. Then they are telling cancer patients to eat more frequent but smaller meals but they don't feed them that way in the hospital, they bring enormous meals that would choke a horse. Sorry, just venting.
I am also sorry we didn't go to an integrative cancer center that offers different types of supportive counseling (nutritional, etc.), maybe if someone else were giving her a hard time about her diet, she would try harder. Here is an example: