Topic: My Husband Frank

My dear much loved husband of 43 years ended his journey here on earth early this morning. It is our belief that he is in heaven with our lord and savior Jesus Christ. Frank was diagnosed with stage 4 intrahepatic cholangiocarcinoma in November of 2013. He chose to have no treatment and was brave until the end. My heart is broken, but I have many wonderful memories.

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I am so very sorry about Frank, he was a very courageous Man. The following poem is from Frank to you. Please accept my humble condolences. 

If I should be the first to go,
And leave you alone, my Dear,
Let not your heart be lonely,
Nor in your eyes a tear.
Grieve not for me, my Darling,
I’ll not be far away,
With petals of love and tenderness,
I’ll pave for you the way.
To join me in our sanctuary,
And ne’er again we’ll part.
Grieve not for me, my Darling,
I live within your heart.
Take joy again in living,
As you did in years gone by;
God knows what of he’s doing,
And not be questioned why.
Grieve not for me, my Darling,
My life with you on earth
Each moment filled with happiness,
And love so few be worth.
I’ll be waiting for you Sweetheart
Where skys are ever blue,
With eager heart and open arms
Patiently, for you.
Grieve not for me, my Darling,
May faith and my love keep.
Your soul filled with contentment
Eternally, I sleep.                                 By Mary Harris

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
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Dear Nancy,

I am so very sorry to hear about Frank's passing. Please accept my sincere condolences. I know you will treasure the memories forever and please know that my thoughts are with you and your family right now.

Hugs,

Gavin

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Dear Nancy,

I am so sorry to hear that Frank has passed.  Try to take some comfort in knowing that at least he is no longer suffering or in pain.  He will always be with you in you heart and memories.  You and your family have my deepest condolences.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

"One Day At A Time"

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I am so very sorry.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Sis

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Thanks so much for the information and support I have received from all of you. I will continue to pray for those of you still on this difficult journey. God Bless. Nancy

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Dear Nancy,

I am so sorry to hear that your brave husband has passed.  I am thinking of you and your family. x

Clare

In the stars now . . . .

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I'm so very sorry for your loss Nancy.  I'm sure you are supported by family and friends around you now, but we're here when you need us.

Lisa


PS, I know you posted elsewhere that you husband said you should look for signs from him after he is gone.  I am sure you will get some.  I have had signs from my little brother several times after his very unexpected passing and they have given me a lot of comfort that he is okay.

Impatient patient.

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I'm so sorry Nancy.  I lost my husband Terry to cholangiocarcinoma just three months ago and understand what you are going through.  Time does help.  Take care of yourself during this very difficult time.  Linda

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We had a memorial service for Frank on Saturday, May 17th, and it was very apparent that I was not the only one who was going to miss him. Over 150 people attended his service. It was a testament to the man he was. I will miss him everyday and it still doesn't seem real that he is gone. Tomorrow my sister returns to Denver and I will be alone. I will be strong for Frank. I feel his presence and it is comforting. Nancy

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Nancy you WILL be fine down the road as you already have found comfort in Frank being around you. I just cannot stress enough how lucky we believers are. I have kept a log in the computer and from Dec 6, 2010 to now I have logged 102 Teddy visits. When I feel down I just read them to remind myself that he is always here. Actually I don't even need to read them as I so feel his presence. And like I always say the last things our boys want is for us to be sad. It will take some time but you will adjust to your new normal. I wrote this poem about 6 months after Teddy passed:

How Are You Doing?
Everyone asks me how I’m doing since you went away,
With a smile on my face I answer, “I really am okay”.
Matter of fact its very hard but I promised to be strong,
Until the time we meet again, in your arms where I belong.

In the morning when I wake, once where there was warmth all night,
There’s nothing but an empty space and a pillow to hold tight.   
Our closet now holds all my clothes it still looks kind of strange,
I try to make it look like more and constantly rearrange.

When I’m in the kitchen and working at the sink,
Many times I stop and this is what I think…..
If Teddy was here he’d grab me to give a little cue,
That he was about to hug me and say his, “I love you”.

No more are the corny jokes that grew longer by the year,
What I wouldn’t give now for just one more, to hear.
When someone calls, your message is still kept on the phone,
That way no one knows I am really home alone. 

When day is over and dinner is eaten by one, 
No more thank you-s for the meal well done.
Can’t find anyone to scratch my back,
There’s just a big hole here, a hole of midnight black.

But, how am I doing? I’m doing okay,
I know that you would want it that way.
And I know you are with me morning to night,
Still watching over me, that every things all right!

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.

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Nancy -
I offer you my belated condolences at the loss of your husband.

Hugs,
KrisV

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Nancy,  I'm so very sorry to hear about your husband's passing.  God give you strength and good memories. 

Hugs,
Iowa Girl
Julie t.

Just for today, I can get through anything.  "Never let fear decide your fate."  (from the band, Awoination.)

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It has been one month since my sweetheart has been gone. I miss him everyday. I am still waiting for it to get easier. I feel like I am functioning in a fog. I do everything I normally do, but I don't feel like it is me doing it. It is a strange and unwelcome feeling. I wonder how long it will take until I feel like myself again? Today I went out socially (for lunch and shopping with a good friend), so I guess that is a step in the right direction. Some days I don't want to get out of bed!

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Dear Nancy, you are perfectly normal and it is going to take a lot longer than a month but the fact you went out for lunch is a good sign. You know what you need to do its just that your heart is not in it and that is understandable. Grief is like a flowing river and you have to let it flow, not good to build a dam to stop it. Like Marion says the lore we loved the harder we grieve. Things will ease up down the road and you will know when. After 3 years I have finally stopped talking about Teddy like he is going to walk through the door although I still feel him all around me. If it helps you to write about it don't feel strange as there are many of us here who have been through the same thing, unfortunately.  Perhaps stars are not stars at all but rather openings in the sky where our loved ones shine down on us to let us know they are HAPPY! we smile back up at the stars as that is what our Boys would want. We are still here for you, you are not alone.

Teddy ~In our hearts forever~ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING
Any suggestion I offer is intended as friendly advice based solely on my own experience. Please consult your doctor for professional guidance.