1 (edited by kiwi Fri, 15 Sep 2006 18:34:20)

Topic: In shock

My husband Grant passed away on the 7 September after an initial diagnosis in June . I don't think he ever came to terms with his disease or the fact that he was going to die.This made it very hard for any of us to accept the cruelty of this cancer.
  I take comfort in the fact that we nursed him at home, which is what he wanted. Grant was a prominant businessman and activitley involved in our community, there has been overwelming shock that someone as fit and healthy as Grant could become so ill and die.At his funeral last week forty young surf lifeguards formed a guard of honour , local Maori honoured Grant with a ceremonial cloak and sang a waiata as he was carried away from us. Our Mayor paid tribute to him.It has brought comfort to his two sons , seeing how much he was loved and admired by others. And so we must go on ,remembering him as the energetic , dependable soulmate who loved more than anything to be sharing his love of the sea and the outdoors with his family.

Re: In shock

I sympathize with your pain and loss.  My family has an almost exact situation.  My father (66) was diagnosed with the disease in June, and too has passed last week (September 9th). 

He was diagnosed after spending a month in Italy and two months after my wedding.  He was in the prime of his life, newly retired and full of love and life.  He too was very active and loved by many. 

My sister and I (both under 30) are devestated, as well as my mother, his wife of 41 years.  The time between diagnosis and his death was too fast.  Although we tried two different regemins of chemotherapy (FU-5 and Xeloda), both failed.  We were treated by the best doctors at Sloan-Kettering here in New York, but my father was too far advanced and too weak to continue.

We do not understand the cruelty of this disease and we cannot grasp how my father went from living a full life to be taken of it all.

We sympathize with you and pray for you and your family that we will find ourselves living each day as our father and your husband would have wanted us to and that they will give us strength each day to go on.

I also pray for all those diagnosed with this disease, and their family members, that a cure will be found.